New to networking? Here’s a few tips to get you started

Need to boost your confidence?

Most people feel the same way. Sometimes, shy people focus on themselves and believe that everyone else is doing the same. They’re not. So look around and imagine that everyone is really thinking about themselves. Get a drink or some food and just relax. Ask people for advice on a sticky situation in your job – people love to help, and you may just find a mentor you can trust.

You already know everything about yourself…

Don’t make the mistake of talking about yourself and what you do. Ask open questions, ones that people can answer at length. For example, “what’s your involvement in marketing?” is the sort of question that gives people a chance to answer in a bit of detail. Or try something like “How did you hear about meet with drinks?” Or “What do you think of The Institute’s events?” Try to get people to talk about themselves and share their stories or insights. Make them the centre of attention and practice describing yourself in 30 seconds.

Variety. It’s more than just a spice

Arrive early to meet the event organisers. They’ll help you mingle. Start off conversations with a few people and build your confidence. Don’t stay with one person all evening – move on after ten minutes. Let them down gently with a line like “It’s been great meeting you, but I better pretend I’m interested in everyone else as well.” Laugh and make friends.

Listen before you leap

Look at the different groups around you. Pick one that looks right to you and get a feel for their conversation. Use your body language to indicate you’re listening and ask questions when the moment presents itself. Join in with comments when you’re ready.